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4 Keys for a Successful Dating Relationship in Marriage

By bwatson 12 Comments

Counselors, bloggers, and marriage educators have been talking about dating for married couples for the past several years.  I remember hearing about dating as a married couple in the 1980’s really for the first time.  My parents would go to functions and get us a baby sitter but I guess that I never considered them going on dates.  What I do remember was that they would go to church functions or work events.  Every once in a while, they would go to a concert at the college or a community play.  While I’m thinking about it, yes they went on a few dates while I was growing up.  They just did not talk about dating as a couple.

Dating is important at any stage in the marriage relationship.  If you are newlyweds, you might think that every day is a date.  You are still excited about being around each other and you are not worried about the “cares” of everyday life yet.  You play and joke and just enjoy being together.  If you are parents of children, dating becomes more difficult.  You have to find a sitter.  You are more tired because of work and taking care of the kids.  Your children have different activities to get to and you are their taxi drivers.  Just remembering those days is making me tired.   Maybe you are like me and my wife:  empty-nesters.  Dating can still be challenging because of work schedules, fatigue from work itself, or financial crises, not to mention babysitting grandkids.  Every stage of married life needs dating to be a part of it, yet each stage carries its own set of struggles to accomplish dating.  How do we have a successful dating relationship while we are married?Romantic Evening 2

  1. Schedule a date night.  Obviously once a week would be best for this.  Some schedules do not allow for that as well as some budgets would not allow it.  Therefore, schedule a date night at least once per month.  Put it on your calendar.  Budget for it.  Make it a priority to your relationship.
  2. Be creative with your dates.  Try not to get into a rut of what a date is for you.  I know that this can be difficult in some communities, but work together to broaden your scope for dating.  I confess that this is a problem for me.  I think that all dates should include a sit-down dinner at a restaurant.  I am trying to expand my thoughts to something more imaginative.
  3. Be attentive on your dates.  Put the phone away.  If you are sitting a table in a restaurant, sit across from each other so you can look at each other.  Talk to your mate.  Laugh and cut up together.  Play footsies under the table.  When you spend time looking at your phone, your spouse thinks he/she is not important.  I have started giving my phone to my wife when we go out on a date.  That way she can control if it gets answered and I will not be tempted to play games or text while we are on the date.
  4. Alternate choosing the dates.  If you always choose what you are going to do on the date, let your spouse plan the date.  You might be surprised at what they want to do.  I have encouraged couples to rotate each month for the dates.  The man plans all the dates for this month and the woman plans all the dates for next month.  Neither person can complain about the choices for the dates.  This allows for more variety in the dates as well as takes the pressure off of any one person to decide on each date.

We need to keep our marriage fresh and spontaneous through dating.

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Each one of us need to be actively dating our spouse.  We need to keep our marriage fresh and spontaneous through dating.  I hope that these suggestions of how to have a successful dating relationship in your marriage is helpful to you.

What would you add to the suggestions?

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Filed Under: Love Relationships, Marriage Tagged With: CMBA Member, Date Night, Dating In Marriage, Successful Dating Tips For Married Couples

Comments

  1. Lisa Campbell says

    February 11, 2015 at 1:56 PM

    We liked your blog about dating and found your 4 keys very useful, these steps will go a long way to creating success in dating while married, we are sharing a link to your blog on our dating blog 🙂

    Reply
    • bwatson says

      February 11, 2015 at 10:23 PM

      Thanks for sharing the link on your blog.

      Reply
  2. Phil says

    February 12, 2015 at 9:24 AM

    thanks for the great practical suggestions for date night. I always appreciate reading your blog and pass it on to friends on my facebook page.

    Reply
    • bwatson says

      February 12, 2015 at 12:10 PM

      Thanks for reading and sharing my blog.

      Reply
  3. Jason@SongSix3 says

    February 12, 2015 at 10:28 AM

    Fresh & spontaneous is GOOD! (although not always entirely possible!)

    The longer we’re married (headed towards 28 years now), the more I see the importance for regularly dating my wife. It helps us to spend time with each other, unhindered by our children or grandchildren. When our children are finally all moved out, I want to ALREADY be best friends with my wife… not playing catch-up to get there after the fact.

    Thanks for your post!

    Reply
    • bwatson says

      February 12, 2015 at 12:12 PM

      Jason, it’s wise of you to want to build your friendship throughout your marriage instead of waiting until it’s just the two of you. Unfortunately, the ones that wait have the most difficult time during the empty nest stage of their lives.

      Reply
  4. Danielle says

    February 23, 2015 at 9:01 PM

    I know dating on a budget can be challenging! One thing we have found helpful is rotating babysitting with other couples. We don’t have family nearby, but we do have friends from church or work with kids close in age to our kids. This helps cut the date cost nearly in half!
    Also, it gives us more freedom on where we go, even if we just go back home to eat and watch a move (or have alone time!), we can do it without kids in tow. (This also cuts back on budgeting needs. I would much rather grill a steak and have a baked potato for less than $10 and be able to save for a new vehicle or to get out of debt than spend $40-50 for the same meal.)
    Just some low-cost ideas! (That don’t involve McDonalds!)

    Reply
    • bwatson says

      February 23, 2015 at 9:19 PM

      These are good ideas! This is another reason for being a part of church family.

      Reply
  5. Jen says

    May 10, 2016 at 7:56 AM

    Thanks for sharing your insight on this topic. Your article is exactly what I like…clear and straight forward.

    Reply
    • bwatson says

      May 12, 2016 at 4:48 PM

      I’m glad that you found this article helpful. I pray that your marriage is enriched and blessed as you move forward.

      Reply

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